Enjoy not Endure

Why are we so blatantly obsessed with getting our hands on the unattainable? With being the unattainable? Let’s face it, when something’s inherently hard to achieve, it automatically goes higher on the scale of achievements, or when a product is less in number, it automatically becomes expensive and in demand. Like in March 2020, when everyone rushed to hoard essential supplies before the lockdown, and when stores were empty the price of things like toilet paper increased online. But, this isn’t true only to essentials. Take uber-luxury brands like Louis Vuitton and Gucci for example; because they’re expensive, few people have them and as a result, they’re put on a pedestal.

The thing is, most brands work this way. Having year-end or 24-hour long sales, or selling limited editions of a product is a great way for brands to draw customers as crowds form endless lines to attain the unattainable. It is because of this obsession, that the economy even works. There’s even a name for the theory- it’s called ‘The Scarcity Principle’. The principle means that humans place a higher value on objects that are scarce and a lower value on those that are abundant. Diamonds are more valuable than rocks because diamonds aren’t as abundant. Not only value but our perception of anything changes with it being scarce as well.

The principle works because we’re wired to think that way, nurtured in a society that lives on this principle. The education system is an example of this: the schools that take only the best of the best and have limited seats, are most people’s first choice. Even in terms of grades, few kids get the highest score and so of course, we all want it. This attitude is what creates the rat race, that never-ending need to get to the top and working to stay there.

If you think about it, the trope in fiction of the ‘popular boy’ going for the ‘only girl that doesn’t fall at his feet’ or even the one where the most eligible bachelor is the one that doesn’t want company in the first place is sort of a product of the scarcity principle mindset. I’d be rich if I had a penny for every time I heard the male lead in a movie talk about his longing for the female lead that’s playing ‘hard to get’.

So, there’s a thought process behind why a ‘one-time-only’ event seems more valuable than an event that happens every week. But, don’t get me wrong I am not condemning once in a lifetime opportunities. Working towards being a part of the crème de la crème and achieving your goal, is a wonderful feeling! However, once you’re at the top your worst fear is going back down. So, you’re doing everything in your power to stay there even when nothing is threatening your position.

Having said that, the mindset has its pros. It keeps a person driven. So, enjoy your accomplishments and keep alive that hope and drive for your goals.

I am of course, no expert and haven’t covered everything in this blog post. Definitely do your own research and you’ll surely learn a lot more about the principle. I’ve provided some helpful links at the end!

SOURCES/ MORE ON THE TOPIC:

What Is The Scarcity Principle?

The Scarcity Mindset

The Psychology of Scarcity

Is That The Only Question?

There seems to be this big, apparently defining question, to which I am always looking for an answer. Or rather everyone around me is. I don’t know if it comes with being a student, or if the question continues to follow you around until you have an answer! You’re probably wondering what the question is. It’s a question that I ask myself every day and each day I seem to have a different answer. This overwhelming question is: Who do you want to be? Have you thought about your career? Why is that the first question we ask a student at any stage of their education? From a young age we’re led to believe that our happiness lies in finding the perfect career path. Why is finding a job equivalent to everlasting happiness and stability?

The question may not seem that scary at first, but the minute the test(s) that will apparently determine your future come close, or you’re about to graduate, it can get pretty stressful. Academic stress is a major reason for suicide, anxiety, and mental health illnesses among a lot of students. It is common to see students stressed and under pressure in a society that believes in keeping students in check by pushing them beyond their limits. Students follow draconian rules and study schedules that leave them feeling depleted and depressed.

Now I may not be the first person telling you this, but it’s okay to not know. Everyone around you might be urging you to find that one perfect job. That if you fall short of this perfection, you are depriving yourself of happiness and not living up to your true potential. ‘’Make the right choice and achieve the ideal grades now and you’re set!’’ they say. I may be wrong but I don’t recall any interview in which a retiree says, ‘’I wish I had achieved a 98% grade point average instead of a 97.5% because that has made all the difference in my life.’’ No, they always seem to say something on the lines of, ‘’enjoy life because it goes by quickly.’’

So, today I am answering this ‘giant’ question, for myself and all my well-wishers. ‘Who do I want to be?’ Well, I choose to be happy! Take each day as it comes, make spontaneous decisions, be amazed by every little surprise that life throws at me and basically, just go with the flow!

Maybe next time you meet me, you can ask me another question. After all, there is more to me, to all of us than what we want to be in the future!

Moreover, as my mom once told me during a ‘what am I going to be!’ panic attack- Nobody has it all figured out, and you certainly can’t figure it out in a day, or a month. The future’s a long time away and of course, nothing ever goes according to plan. (she’s one of the few unique people who lives in the present and doesn’t care about the future) So, relax! Even though this question feels like an ultimatum, I’ve learned from those around me that it isn’t. There are more questions to ask, more to answer. Let’s start the conversation!

OTHER BLOG POSTS ON THE TOPIC:

It’s OK To Not Have It All Figured Out

HELP!!! I’M PRESSURED!

Do You Also Have No Idea What You Want To Do In Life?